7 Ways to Sabotage your Relationship with a Recruiter 

February 2020

If you want a successful relationship with your Recruiter, start out by doing the opposite of these things listed below. It is noticed and appreciated when a candidate knows how to present themselves and asserts themselves enough to get their point across that they really want the job.  The opposite is also noticed, when a candidate intentionally (and sometimes unintentionally) over extend themselves to the point of becoming a pest.  Here is a list of things NOT to do with your Recruiter.

1) Nag them – Constantly calling, texting, or emailing them to get an “update” on the open position or for them to tell you why you don’t qualify in various ways. Also applying to 10 different jobs every month whether you qualify or not. It makes you look desperate and that is never an attractive quality in a candidate. It makes the Recruiter want to avoid you altogether, even for jobs you qualified for.

2) Extremely talkative – Whether you’re calling to ask about the job or answering prescreen or interview questions, you take your time and give 10 points for every topic or question. A 10-minute conversation lasting over 30 minutes. Recruiters don’t have time to be on the phone over 30 minutes for each call otherwise they will never get anything done. In some cases we may have a time limit to talk before we have another call scheduled with another candidate and having to endure long-winded answers is a “time killer” and gets the Recruiter frustrated to the point they don’t put you through to the manager to spare him or her the possible 2 hour interview.

3) Disappearing Act –  Thou shalt not "ghost" your Recruiter - funny but true.  You express initial interest in the job and you’re a good fit, but then you are nowhere to be found when it is time for the phone screen or interview. You ignore phone calls, texts, and emails when they express interest in wanting to have you interview with the hiring manager or extend a verbal offer to you.

4) Untimely questions – When someone asks about salary or vacation time within the first 3 minutes of the conversation, it is an ultimate “turn off”. It makes you look like you’re money shopping for the highest bidder and it’s not attractive. Asking about vacation time already makes you look like you’re ready to “goof off” or quickly time away from doing your new job. Either topic should be introduced by the recruiter. If you have a true concern about the pay, you can wait until the end of the conversation then ask diplomatically what is the salary range for this position. As for vacation, wait until you get the offer until you initiate that conversation.

5) Arrogant, Know-it-All Attitude – There is confidence in ones skills, and then there is arrogance in one’s own thoughts. Candidates who are overly opinionated, haughty, and arrogant usually do not get a chance to interview with the hiring manager because the recruiter is put off by the sense of “I have nothing more to learn” feel of the conversation that they do not want to represent such a person to the manager. People with that attitude and mindset usually are not team players or pleasant to be around…which are critical in working closely with others.

6) Unprofessional – When a candidate talks about uncomfortable things or calls you “Sweetie” or “Honey” or uses offensive language, it creates a barrier between them and the Recruiter. The call or visit is usually shorten as the person is already “dismissed” as a viable candidate after such an encounter.

7) Not being honest with Recruiter  – We have all been blind sighted but the worst blindside is when you feel like you have all the information from the candidate but they save the “best” (meaning the worst) information for the manager. One answer is given to me as the Recruiter, then the candidate gets in front of the manager and say, “I’ve been terminated from the last 3 out of 4 jobs”. Even after probing and questioning, this is something that is omitted from the conversation. The Recruiter does not want to be told this information from the Manager but rather hear it from you so we can coach you on how to disclose this sensitive information when interviewing.


March 2020

Due to the covid-19 coronavirus pandemic, there are many virtual career fairs going on this summer for summer hires and the upcoming holiday openings that will soon be here. Companies are definitely thinking ahead and pipelining candidates for future hire considerations. It can be overwhelming for a person to see dozens of companies in one place at one time online; making them feel uneasy, insecure and downright scared. If a person prepares and does what it takes to stand out, they won’t have a reason to feel nervous when time comes for the next virtual career fair. Below are 6 ways to stand out from among the crowd at any Career Fair. 

 1)DRESS TO IMPRESS–Wear a suit or nice outfit that shows you care about presenting yourself as a contender for the job (at least your upper body). Make sure hair, facial hair, and nails are neat and well-groomed.  First impressions go a long way, even by video, so show up ready to impress. 

2)HAVE AN UPDATED RESUME–Make sure your resume is up-to-date and not an old one. It looks very lazy when a person brings an outdated resume for companies to review.  By no means, should you ever handwrite changes or updates to the resume (example, new phone number or addresses). 

4)KNOW THREE THINGS ABOUT THE COMPANY-Usually career fair planners share the companies who will be in attendance. Be sure to target the companies you are interested in and do some homework. Look at their website and get some facts about the company so you can share it with the Recruiter at the career fair. Look for things like recent awards won, huge volunteer project they’ve done, or any other newsworthy information. It makes a difference and definitely stands out when someone shows up who has read the website and know details about what they company has been doing over the past year. 

5)ASK ENGAGING QUESTIONS AND SMILE –Asking the right questions at Career fairs are very important because time is so limited and using that time wisely will be to your advantage. Look up the job openings beforehand and ask about the types of jobs you quality for and share your qualifications directly. Also, ask questions about the division or team’s leadership. This shows you’re engaged with wanting to be a part of the team. And by all means, smile while you’re asking questions; otherwise it can seem like an interrogation session. No one would want to hire a person like that.  Smiling also shows you are enthusiastic about the job and engaged in the conversation. 

6)ASK RECRUITER OR MANAGER HOW DO THEY LIKE THE COMPANY–No one ever asks the Recruiter how they like the company, what brought them there or what is keeping them there. It is a sure fire way to endear yourself to the person who helps makes hiring decisions. The person who does this can be easily seen as a thoughtful teammate or a caring person they would like to add to the team!

7)ASK WHAT ARE “NEXT STEPS”AFTER OUR DISCUSSION TODAY?–Asking for next steps shows the Recruiter that you are serious about wanting to work for the company and it will help you stand out among the rest. Some people don’t want to show a deep interest at this stage as it may come off as desperate. That is not the case. Recruiters like to know that people are interested in their job openings, so asking for a future plan of contact shows you are truly interested and that you want the job.


April 2020

It seems the bottom has fallen out with all of the job losses that have taken place in late March and now in April.  Each week there are millions upon millions applying for unemployment due to lost jobs, loss of hours on the job or because of the need to be furloughed for months or up to a year.  These times are very scary as it seems the work world has gone insane! Pink slips passed out on a daily basis.  Companies confused as to what will be demanded of them according to the new federal laws for many businesses.  Who knew there was such a thing as essential and non-essential businesses.  This is a term we have never heard until now thanks to the covid-19 coronavirus pandemic.  What we have to do now is keep our sanity even when it seems the world has lost it's sanity.  We have to figure out what is important to us and cling to it.  

Right now, looking for a job is key and very important, but taking care of yourself mentally and physically is way more important; so take some time off from your job search - a day or a week, so you can adjust to the fast paced of changes that are coming our way on a daily basis.  Companies are confused as to when or if they can hire right now.  They are also adjusting to the new norm of business closings, regulations for safekeeping in their places of work, mask wearing mandatory rules and nowadays quarantine required for weeks.  

Find some peace. Connect with family or friends. Read, listen, or watch ANYTHING positive.  These are the things that will get you through this month.  It is smart to continue your job search, but above all, search for things that make you feel whole, uplifted, and encouraged.  Keep your sanity through these insane times.  You are not alone and will be better on the other side of this. 


May 2020

A virtual interview, or video interview, is a job interview that leverages video technology to allow the interview to take place remotely. Instead of meeting face-to-face, the hiring manager and candidate will connect with each other online using video software or web link.

Nowadays virtual interviewing is on the rise after the covid-19 pandemic. Interviewing altogether can be stressful, but showing up on video can be just as stressful if you are not prepared for this type of interview. Being able to show up confidently on video can be done and here are some tips to make that happen:

 Be Technically Ready – Make sure you have internet connection, video capability, and a microphone. Test all technology a day or two prior to the interview to ensure you have a non-disruptive video meeting.

 Dress up for interview – Although the interview is not in person, one should still dress to impress the Interviewer – at least for the upper body. Be sure to put on a collared shirt, jacket, and tie or a dressy blouse with a jacket. The same rules apply for men and women not to wear low cut shirts or tops – keep the look very professional.

 Good lighting – Be sure to have good lighting. Get additional lighting besides normal lights in a room. Try not to sit in front of a window as it can give a shadow. Put lighting in front of you for the best reflection.

 Background Awareness – Be cognizant that the person interviewing you will see everything within the video scope, so be sure all pictures, images, or signs behind you are positive or neutral. Do away with anything controversial items or things that can be seen as possibly negative or offensive.

 No distractions – Sit in an area that is without distractions or noise. You want to be able to concentrate and hear the person speaking, so be sure to position yourself in the best place for an uninterrupted meeting. Turn off cell phones and other noise-making devices.

 Be prepared to answer questions effectively just as you would in an in-person interview. Yes, this is a video interview but it does not mean it is taken less serious. A virtual interview is another way (these days, a safer way) to determine if you are a strong fit for the role, so be sure to wow them with your answers by being prepared.


June 2020

“Awaken the Inside” for Life!

To get a more accurate definition of ‘awaken’, I looked it up in the dictionary, and the meaning is straightforward. All it is, is two words “to awake.” When I looked deeper into the word origin and its history, I saw the following: “to spring into being”, “to wake up”, “to stir up, rouse to activity”. What is it for you that makes you feel alive inside? What gets you going or gets your blood pumping? Okay, now when was the last time you did that? Whatever it is, you should be doing it now! As long as it is legal and ethical…do it! Life really is too short to disregard the things in life that make us feel alive. We all get bogged down in the finer details of life and the everyday mundane routine, but it is worth it to step out and awaken your inside…again!

Lesson Learned: Live Out Lour - inside and out!

This is a small excerpt from my book, "Espresso for the Soul: 31 Days of Encouragement & Life Advice".  This book was written in 2011 but I think it still holds true today. 



July 2020

After seeing the unemployment numbers soaring each week in March, April, and May with very slow decrease I decided to write this book, "Survival Guide for the Unemployed: Essentials Needed for Confident Interviewing to Land the Perfect Job".  I wrote and dedicated this book to the millions of people who lost their jobs due to the covid-19 coronavirus and to the 2020 Graduates who are having to seek work during a global pandemic.  

If you were lost in the wilderness, you would want to have direction as to how to get out alive. If you had a guide that gave you steps and showed you how to get to safety, you would grab hold of it.  Well, this book is meant to be your guide out of the confusion of losing your job and having to navigate to find a new one.  

I have been on both sides of the table - one as a candidate seeking work and as a Recruiter, helping to groom candidates for interviews to get the job.  I know how hard it is to struggle with self-identity after losing a job and wondering what do I do with my time, with my day when I have no place to clock in for work.  I know how hard it is when the bills are rolling in and the money is limited and the needs are continuing pile on. This is why I wrote this book starting with Dealing with Emotions in the first chapter and ending with encouragement with the B.R.A.V.E. Method for staying encouraged while out of work.  

You will gain insight and glean all of the nuggets I share from 20 years of Recruiting Experience.  I am rooting for you and want you to be encouraged during this time.  This time will pass and I know you will be better for it.  

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Thank you and Stay B.R.A.V.E!  (You will know what that means when you read the book :D) 



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August 2020

Anyone who has been out of work knows how difficult it is to get in to a routine or get on track to a normal schedule. After being used to clocking in for work each day, not having a set schedule can be unnerving and a little scary. It is also a time when most people feel insecure and somewhat embarrassed for not being at work, while other people are “out there”on the job. Having this mindset can put a person in a state of confusion and frustration which causes him or her not to know where to start after losing a job. It is very important to have an Emergency Plan, which are simple steps to take the moment we find ourselves unemployed. Below are Top 5 things to do (initially) when you’re out of work. 

1)Check on your finances -Whether you are single or married, when a person loses their job, they need to create a budget immediately and know where all monies are being spent, what bills need to be paid and when, also finding ways to save money is critical when income is severely decreased.

2)Set time for self-care–This is a time when people can be depressed or anxious which can lead to doing things that are unhealthy like overeating, overspending, getting drunk, and other destructive behaviors. Taking time out for self-care will help alleviate the negative emotions and feelings and can get you centered for a better job search experience. Exercising, talking to a trusted friend, meditating, or going for a long peaceful walk can be ways to refocus energy in a good direction. Being emotionally and mentally ready for interviews is important. It is obvious when a person is not ready for the emotional part of job searching.  When you feel good, you perform better.

3)Reach out to Staffing agencies, friends, and family regarding your job search–Make sure you contact one or two staffing agencies to help with your job search. They have a database of companies they have partnered with to find qualified talent, so take advantage of it. There should not be a fee for these services, if so...leave and find a traditional staffing agency instead (Kelly, Manpower). Don’t discount talking to friends and family for help with your search. Let them know you are in the job market and the type of job you’re looking for. You never know who they have in their professional or social circles who might can help with a job lead or possibly with a job to consider. 

4)Structure an action plan –It is important to create a daily routine when you’re out of work. This will help you feel engaged, focused, and purposeful –qualities that are needed during a time one feels out of control. Action plan should consist of companies to target to call or visit, dates of interviews, and making interview follow-up calls, job search support groups to attend.

5)Attend virtual networking events and career fairs –This may seem difficult when you’re out of work and not feeling the joy of meeting other people, but this is a critical step in finding work. As we all know the saying, it’s not what you know but who you know–that can help you land a job. Show up ready, with a smile, and with a strong elevator speech to share.  If the meeting happens to be in person, bring business cards. A simple card is sufficient with your name, email, phone number and the job title you seek. You can also list some job duties if space allows.  Attend virtual job fairs! Talking to recruiters and companies will help build your confidence and they may offer great feedback and tips to help you in your next interview. 

When you’re out of work, it is all about making sure you do the right things that will help you build and strengthen your confidence in yourself to successfully find that next job. You won’t hit the mark of getting the job if you show up negative, confused, or unprepared for the meeting; but if you put these 5 steps in to action immediately after losing a job, it won’t be long before you are on the right path back to employment.  



September 2020

I am so thankful that Peter J. McGuire, requested for hardworking Americans to have a day to celebrate and honor all that we bring to this country.  The Working Class bring strength, prosperity, and well-being to the economy.  Peter McGuire was a carpenter and Labor Union Leader who had a dream for himself and for others.  It took 10 years for it to be realized as a federal holiday in 1892 after presenting it to the New York Central Labor Union in 1882.  He could have given up and thrown in the towel after a few years, but he did not.  Although it took a decade to have it realized, it was well worth it as we get to recognize this special Labor Day holiday to enjoy in 2020!!  

Are you in the waiting period of your dreams or goals?  Are you tempted to throw in the towel and say..."too much rejection", "it's just too hard", or "it's probably not a good idea anyway".  All of these thoughts will have you giving up and claiming defeat, not victory.  Instead, fan the doubt away with action.  Do something to take a step closer to what you feel is your dream or goal.

Whether you are with or without a job today use this Labor Day to honor yourself!  Do the things you love and enjoy - You so deserve it. 


October 2020

 Being fit and healthy physically yields so many benefits to the heart, mind and body.  Well, being fit when it comes to your career is important too in order to be ready at any time if you lose a job or find yourself in career transition.  Here are some tips to keeping yourself in tip top shape when it comes to your career:

* Keep your resume up-to-date - If you are employed for more than a month, you should have your resume updated with your current position along with accomplishments and added skills you've learned along the way.  If you ever get a pink slip, this will be a huge help in quickly networking and applying to jobs with an updated, fresh resume to share. 

Add new skills to your toolbox - Read books, attend trainings and webinars, take online courses to add more skills to your toolbox.  This will allow you to attain more knowledge and skills to add to your resume and stand out among the competition.

Keep a record of accomplishments, kuddo emails, articles, and recognition by creating a portfolio of these items to share and "show off" in an interview.  Most managers like to see a compiled lists of ways a candidate has been acknowledged for their great work. This almost guarantees that the candidate is a top performer and therefore will definitely be top of mind when it comes to hiring. 

These are ways to ensure you are fit as a fiddle when it comes to your career, always being ready to step up and step out to your next job if that is ever the case (or when it is time for promotions).  Stay (career) fit!!